Proper Manners

When did society become infused with selfishness and people who either don't know or don't care to abide by proper manners and social niceties? For instance, when did it become acceptable for people to suggest more of a guest list, when the invite said that it's going to be a "smaller celebration" and that the event is "invite only"? It really just never ceases to amaze me that some people are so socially inept as to consider it ok to approach the host/planner and insist that more people be invited.

I am thinking the best way to deal with these requests is to ignore them or tell these people that I'm sorry they seem dissapointed and leave it at that. I would like to just disinvite these pesky people as well. It would be akin to a "no contest" clause in a will. If you contest the will, whatever was willed to you is deemed voided. Thus, if you ask for another guest to be invited, in this case, your own invitation will be rescinded. I think turnabout is fair play!

Don't these intruders of good manners understand that perhaps you aren't at liberty to say why a certain person isn't invited. Or, perhaps, you just don't care to share the reason why that person isn't invited. There is usually GOOD reason if someone doesn't make it on an invite list.

Furthermore, in this particular case, I wish that these ill mannered invitees would realize that not everyone likes their friends and sometimes those disliked friends aren't invited. Not everyone has to be friends or ought to be friends.

It seems that society is advocating for a change in social rules; it seems that you have to be nice to everyone and not hurt anyone's feelings. I advocate for propriety and cordial manner when it's necessary, but some people would be better persons if there was a hurt feeling or two...or if there were public shaming by friends...or if there were intolerance of ridiculous, selfish behaviors. Let's not all be walked over by those who are selfish and improper - stand up and demand respect people!

Ok...end of rant.